Come virtually join us for a series of online sex positive book club discussions. The book we will be exploring is “Love’s Not Color Blind” by Kevin A Patterson. All are welcome, whether you’ve read the section or not, please join us for the discussion!  

About the book: 

The issues that make monogamous dating daunting for people of color—shaming and exclusion by white partners, being fetishized, having realities of everyday racism ignored—occur in polyamorous relationships too, and trying "not to see race" only makes it worse. To make polyamorous communities inclusive, we must all acknowledge our part in perpetuating racism and listen to people of color. Love's Not Color Blind puts forward the framework—through research, anecdotal testimony, and analogy—for understanding, identifying, and confronting racism within polyamorous communities.  

What we’ll this week do: 

Every other Thursday we’ll have an hour and a half to discuss each section over zoom. Please feel free to talk, share, or just listen!

October 7nd Beginning Stuff and Alternative Lifestyles Be Like. . . (pages 1 – 36)

Disclaimer One: The “Bookening. . ."

Disclaimer 2: Electric Boogaloo. . .

The Format of This Book. . .

Forced Ambassadorship

Presentation and the Angry black Intentional Communities

Why Does it Matter?

October 21th Barriers for Entry Pt 1 (Pages 37 – 64)

White Feminism and Polyamory

Othering

Dating Preferences

November 4th Barriers for Entry Pt 2 (Pages 65 – 104)

Breakdowns In Representation aka White People Shit

Tokenism

Fetishization

Class. . .

November 18th Fostering Inclusivity. . . For White Folks (Pages 105 – 126)

Owning your Shit. . .

Don’t Pander. . .

Engage Intentional Planning

Joint Events

December 2nd Fostering Inclusivity. . . For People of Color (Pages 127 – 158)

Show Up. . . Or Don’t. . .

Your Events Are Yours

Making Your Own Group

Start Creating

TL;DR

End Notes

Schedule: (PST)

7pm – Zoom room opens

7:05pm – Opening Circle and introductions

7:30pm – Open discussion (Jamie will moderate)

8:30pm – Closing remarks and announcements

8:45pm – End of book club

FAQs:  

Do I need to read the book and show up *every* week to join? 

NO! Jump in and out at your own pace! This is an OPEN GROUP, please just show up!

Will this group meet in person or offline? 

This group will only meet online  

About the Author: 

Kevin Patterson has been practicing ethical nonmonogamy for 15 years and is an active member of the Philadelphia polyamory community. He is the creator of the Poly Role Models project, an interview series that serves as a platform for the diversity of our relationship structures and the people within them to shine through. Find him on Instagram @polyrolemodels